Wedding Speeches – Help and Advice
When it comes to wedding speeches most men would rather have panthers gnaw off their thumbs than think about how they’re going to cope with writing and delivering heartfelt and engaging wedding speeches. That’s why we’ve put together a number of resources to help the Best Man, Groom and Father of the Bride get their speeches in order.
#1 Professional Wedding Speechwriters for the Best Man, Groom & Father of the Bride
Worried about writing a Best Man speech, Groom Speech or Father of the Bride speech? Can’t think how to start? Don’t have the time? Written one but it’s rubbish?
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We’re James Harris and Marc Blakewill – two very experienced, BAFTA-nominated comedy writers who regularly write for Russell Howard’s Good News, and count Horrible Histories and The Weakest Link amongst our many other TV and radio credits. We also write gags and speeches for an array of corporate clients, comedians and impending wedding speakers like yourself.
We’ll work with you on email (or over the phone, if you prefer) to get your speech just right. We can either gag up, spruce and polish the speech you already have, or write you a brand spanking new one from scratch. From wit to warmth, and everything in between, we’ll ensure that you hit all the right notes on the day.
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I’m a professional writer with various clients including Staggered and Burn The Toast. I’ve worked on over fifty wedding speeches for best men, fathers of the bride and grooms. I offer a personalised service, taking great care to get every speech right for each customer.
I’ll help you turn your vague ideas and half-remembered anecdotes into a great speech full of humour, warmth and wisdom.
I’ll talk to you not only about the subject of your speech and the things you’d like to say, but also about yourself so I can make this your speech; personal to you in tone, language and character.
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“Cheers Craig – happy to be a cheerleader for your writing any time!” S.
I am an award winning stand-up comedian and comedy writer currently performing on the UK comedy circuit. For the past four years I have written a large number of speeches for private clients.
I guarantee that no matter how little public speaking experience a client has, they will be relaxed and confident that their speech is unique, well structured, and above all funny.
Service 1: Over email and phone I take information relating to your speech, which is then turned into bespoke speech. I refine the speech over several drafts until it’s perfect for you.
Service 2: As with Service 1 I write your perfect speech. I then work with you over the phone and in person (depending on what you need) to help you perform the speech as well as it’s written!
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“You’re a comedy genius Darren!”
I’m a vastly experienced comedy writer with a background in stand-up. I’ve had my work produced by Channel 4 and have co-written critically acclaimed shows at the Edinburgh Festival. I also have extensive experience of writing speeches for private and corporate clients.
I specialise in Father-of-the-Bride speeches and will work with you to strike just the right balance between humour and emotion. For the Best Man I aim to provide a totally personalized speech which will make the groom glad he picked you.
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“Thanks for your help Seamus, wanted to let you know that it went down really well. I wasn’t even that nervous in the end.” Mark.
Tony is a well respected stand-up comedian with sharp one-liners and hilarious stories. He also writes for various BBC radio shows and is a regular contributor to Viz magazine. He spends more time than is strictly healthy trying out new jokes on Twitter.
“The best joke writer around” – GQ Magazine
Tony can offer you a bespoke speechwriting service tailored to your individual requirements or he can “script edit” a speech which you’ve already written but which needs “gagging up”.
Every consultation starts with a phone conversation to discuss the exact requirements and is only completed when you are happy with the end result. Tony has over eight years of experience as a stand up so he can coach you through all aspects of delivering a speech brilliantly.
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“I’d already written a draft of my speech, but I felt it needed more jokes and that it needed to flow better. I found your service on Google, and was particularly impressed with Tony’s twitter feed of one liners. After purchasing the service, I had a phone conservation with Tony, and he put my mind at rest that he would be able to help me fill the gaps. I told him some stories involving myself and the groom, and he came up with some great punch lines personalised to the content. He also assisted in generally improving the structure of the speech. I’ve been very pleased with the service, and I’m now quietly confident that it will go down well on the day – fingers crossed!” P
Using a Staggered Approved speechwriter gives you three guarantees:
- You end up with a speech you’re happy with or you get your money back
- Staggered constantly vet their work and ensure they offer an outstanding quality service
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#2 Guide: How To Write Your Wedding Speech
Want to go it alone? We promise* that by the time you’ve finished reading this article, you’ll know how to write your wedding speech.
Grab a brew, take a deep breath, and get some pen and paper – because you’re in exactly the right place to get started.
Calm? Composed? Then let’s start at the beginning…
When it comes to writing wedding speeches (or indeed writing anything) these are the best words of advice you’ll ever get (from James Thurber apparently):
The first draft is just about finishing it. Don’t worry if there are mistakes, there will be, but you’ll correct them later. The key is to get a rough draft done.
It’s amazing but the age-old question of wedding speech nerves disappear when you’re sitting on a great speech that you’re happy with and all of that starts by simply writing the thing in rough. After that you practice it, run it past people and re-write it until it’s perfect. Then you’re confident and you even enjoy delivering it.
Some basic pointers
- You should aim for your speech to be under ten minutes and ideally last between five and eight minutes. Even if you’re a brilliant speaker 15 mins is the absolute maximum
- Before the big day have a meeting with all the speakers to discuss who’s saying what and who is introducing you
- If possible, practice with the mics you’ll use and rehearse projecting your voice into the room. It really helps to see the room you’ll be speaking in, so you can imagine yourself there when you’re practicing
- See if the venue has someone who will act as an Master of Ceremonies, or if there will be an MC. If not decide who will introduce the other speakers – it’s often the best man.
Classic wedding speech formats
Let’s look at the classic format for each of the speeches, in the order they occur in. Ultimately, you can take these and flesh out the points and you’ll have a perfectly decent speech (told you this article was good).
Father of the Bride speech – at a glance
- Welcome guests and thank them for coming
- Welcome new son-in-law and his parents
- Talk about your daughter and say how you feel
- Toast bride and groom
Groom speech – at a glance
- Thank father of the bride for his speech
- Thank all relevant people (consult bride to avoid missing people). These are generally, new Inlaws (possibly for paying), your Parents, Guests for attending and for presents, and people who have helped with the wedding preparations (venue, florists, etc)
- The most essential thing is to talk honestly about how you feel about your wife, your relationship and your future
- Toast Bridesmaids
- (optional) Pre-empt best man speech
Best Man speech – at a glance
- Introduce yourself, thank previous speakers
- Talk about the Groom (and the Bride if you know her) – do this humorously but not destructively
- Give an outsiders perspective on the couple’s relationship
- Toast the Bride and Groom
- Possibly read correspondence or hand back over to the MC
So what content do you put in your speech and where do you get it?
You might think that your mind is completely blank but once you’ve got to grips with the wedding speech etiquette, you’ll at least have a rough idea of your content. Then it’s a case of doing some research and starting to shape the material.
The more people you can get to help with your speech the better it will be.
- If you’re a Father of the Bride, get your wife and other children involved. You could even ask the Bride what she’d like you to say (you don’t have to follow her advice obviously)
- If you’re a groom speak to your fiancé about who needs to be thanked, ask her mates what sort of things they’d mention – we’ve even asked brides what they want to hear in your Groom’s speech
- As the best man you will probably have two or three good stories that demonstrate what sort of bloke the groom is. But once you speak to other people connected to him you could end up with 10 or 11 good stories to choose from
Especially for the best man’s speech don’t forget to include your fellow stags (pass a notebook round at the stag-do, or post stag emails), colleagues from his work, his parents and brothers and sisters, notable people from other places in his life such as people on the same sports teams or in the same societies. One person who best men often forget to talk to is the bride.
Good questions to ask these people are: what classic stories can you tell me about him? How would you sum up the groom? Has he ever said anything particularly funny? What is he well-known for? What makes him angry? Do they have any funny photos or material that they could send to you connected to the groom?
The other reason to speak to the bride is because not only will she have good material, she will also be able to fill you in on the important biographical information about their relationship that you might not know. You should find out where they met, how they became a couple, what sort of things they enjoy doing (without getting graphical!) and how the groom proposed – whether he made a mess of it or if he was sweet about it.
An essential point on content
The most important thing for all of the speeches is that you should remember when it comes to gathering material is to ask yourself this very simple question: what do you want to say? This is the point in the day when you get to express your thoughts and feelings to everyone there. Ok, so maybe that’s a bit nerve-wracking but it’s also a tremendous privilege to be able to have that sort of opportunity, so use it – say something from the heart that people will remember.
It might sound obvious but often we often get caught up in what we’re supposed to say and forget that this is their chance to tell their best friend, wife, or daughter what they think of them. If the groom is a mate who has always been there for you then this is the point to say so. If you couldn’t be prouder of your daughter – declare it. If you’re thrilled to be married to this beautiful woman, speak now! This honest statement of how you feel is the sort of thing that can make for the most effective toasts and it’s what people will remember.
Once you’ve got your material
You should then consider the format of the speech. You might want to do something very traditional (introduction, few stories, toast) like the examples at the beginning, or you could want to do something more quirky. Either is fine, don’t forget though that the essence of a beginning, a middle and an end has worked as a structure for all of recorded history, so it will work for you too.
A word of warning. If you’re going quirky – plan it properly. If you have a lot of photos and videos that you want to use then you need to prepare well in advance. For instance you need to make sure that the venue you are going to has the correct audio-visual equipment for you to use.
Try and simplify things where possible – print out the photos onto a sheet of paper which you can distribute to the tables rather than projecting them. If you are using video then you need at least one rehearsal in the venue before the big day, to make sure you know how loud the video is, how to control the equipment and so on.
Once you have your material the next step is to sift through it and select the very best stories, the finest sentiments and put them in an order.
How to present your speech
When writing your speech use a 12 point Arial font, which is formatted to have 1.5 line spacing as this is one of the easiest fonts to read when stood up.
- If you do this each page when read out should last approximately one and a half minutes
- If you’d rather write your speech onto cue cards then that’s fine but it’s better to have a copy of the speech with you written in full on the day just in case your mind goes blank
- Don’t forget, your sweat-stained, note-covered speech makes a really nice keepsake/present. If you’re the best man or father of the bride why not offer to frame all the speeches and, presto, you’ve got a simple, but incredibly thoughtful gift.
Don’t forget – the classic mistake people make is to try and write the perfect speech at the beginning, don’t. Just complete it and then refine it. It’s so much easier to re-write something than it is to write it. Good luck.
*Like a friendly promise, not one of those legally-binding, I can now sue you sort of promises.
#3 Guide: Get Confidence For Your Wedding Speech
Giving a wedding speech has to be one of the most nerve-wracking things that blokes are forced to do at weddings. You’ve got to get to your feet in front of hundreds of people, deal with your emotions and be hilarious, it’s a bit of a tall order.
Fortunately, Staggered is on your side. We asked life coach Steve Roche who has guided hundreds of men through the perils of public speaking and is a specialist in helping you to speak with confidence. He’s put together a course that will take you from gibbering wreck to a confident speaker and best of all – it’s free. Get reading!
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